Someone once said, marriage is sweet and it’s the desire of every blessed soul, so much that those who have chosen not to marry still envy those who did. And those who did, still envy those who didn’t.
Some people also said something similar, they said when you are single, you gaze on couples when you see them, when you are married you envy the singles life.
These two statements point to the view of some people that marriage is a necessary “devil” you cannot but have, either you are in one, you look forward to it or just came out one or at least a product of one.
While the issue of marriage is still on, many believe that women suffer most in marriage or women endure most in marriage. Some quarters believe that the dos and the don’ts of marriage favour men more than women.
This write-up isn’t purported to encourage anything evil in marriage but to support the saying that rules are meant to be broken.
We shall look at some of the things so much expected of women in marriage that if the women fail to do them the result won’t be as negative as its being painted it to look like. In fact, it could even be fun breaking some of the so called marriage rules.
1. IN – HOUSE COOKING
In marriage, it is mostly believed that women should always cook for the family. Or, the husband could help to do some cooking to support the wife. Whichever way it comes, having home cooking is always seeing as wives mandate for the family.
What’s wrong with eating out? If the wife says, let’s eat out today and have a different taste, is it a total bad idea? Will it offend anyone for the woman to order for food from eatery and make the family have another feel of a different food? I doubt it. You should try it sometimes.
2. ALWAYS WEAR THE MARRIAGE BOUND
Marriage ring is referred to as bound in some denominations of Christianity. And some countries too call it bound and not ring as it is popular called by many.
Married women have wedding rings on than men did. But why is this? Some husbands give excuses that the nature of their job won’t permit having it on everytime, especially those men in entertainment industry. It doesn’t necessarily mean any man giving these excuses intend to cheat on their wives because some are sincere with it.
But why on earth can’t wives too remove the bound and make the finger have some fresh air and also enjoy some sun rays for more vitamins E on the area covered by the ring? You should try this, take note of people’s opinion whenever you do it.
Should you suspect your husband not notice you not having it on, ask him about it. Should he notice and complain tell him your reason and he will either laugh or insist. It will still be fun, whichever way. You should try it.
3. DON’T SLEEP IN SEPARATE BEDS
Why can’t wives sleep in another room away from their husbands sometimes? Will it spell evil for the marriage if women do? I don’t think so. This isn’t going to be an everyday practice, of course.
Why do some people make a case out of everything? Heavens won’t fall if wife excuses the husband and come back to a revitalised love life. You should try it.
The funny thing is that you don’t necessarily need to have any reason for doing so sometimes when you do it. You should just do it, at least you would have proved some beliefs wrong that you can’t have a freedom of rolling around in your bed anymore as soon as you are married.
4. ALWAYS LET HIM TAKE THE LEAD
What if you take some decisions in the home too? Men is the head and they lead while every family member follow. What if the wife leads sometimes? Shouldn’t there be any freedom of such if your husband believes in you decision taking prowess?
We still have a lot men who believe If the women should call some shots in the home it won’t hurt anybody. It will only help to increase trust and reliability.
You should try this, but not without asking for your husband permission, of course.
5. DON’T ARGUE WITH YOUR MAN
This is one of the reasons why our kids grow up not being able to stay in their marriage—they think marriage is a bed of roses.
When couples never speak up against each other for once, when the children never caught them arguing till they go out to have their own family, they will think it’s abnormal for spouse to argue.
Wives too should have a voice in marriage, at least their daughters will see that marriage doesn’t make one dump and the male child will see reason to hear their own wives out also in their marriage.
It’s not a bad idea if couples expose their kids to some little experience of them disagreeing to agreeing at home. It will strengthen the kids. Work towards this sometimes.
6. NEVER ANSWER HIS PHONE
This number 6, I can tell you is a strict rule in some homes. Wives don’t pick husbands call. Says who? You should do it and do it with a sincere heart.
Wives aren’t maids, why should this ever be a rule for women? What happens to the two becoming one and wife being the husband’s help?
Next time your husband phone rings, kindly answer it and hand over it to him. Don’t stay on it, just pick it, answer it and take it to him. Don’t do this everytime though.
7. NEVER DENY HIS SEX ADVANCE
You should apply caution in doing this. You should have known how much men like sex by now, so you may want to apply some cautions here. But you still have to do it sometimes.
Wives aren’t machines, why do some people still think women will always say yes to their men sex advancement? You are not in bond in marriage but freedom of marriage, so you still have the freedom of turning down some offers, even from your men.
Unless, it is always okay by you. If it’s not, please say No sometimes, let your men know you need some days off too. It won’t ruin anything, I can bet you.
[b] 8. NEVER DRESS LOSE[/b]
Wives should always dress responsible, we know that already. But what if wives should losen up sometimes and make her husbands’ head turn? Would she have broken some sacred laws?
Men appreciate the look of these young girls sometimes and we aren’t saying it is bad, but that wives too should make their men look them twice isn’t a bad idea. What do you think?
So, as a wife, you dressing the way you did the day your man set his eyes on you and make him fall in love again isn’t an offense, is it?
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