A child is someone below the age of eighteen. And in this piece, we are talking about male children. A lot has been said about our female children already, so much that our male children are left to nothing much to build up with and be ready for life.
Come to think of it, who faces more responsibilities the most? Who’s supposed to be the head and lead with good examples for others to follow? A male or a female child? I know this will bring about some argument. But as long as it’s a healthy one, it’s all good.
The results of focusing more on female children in all these years are what we see around us these days, that women are now leading in academics, offices, sports, etc. Women are almost leading in the home front now, a situation which the men will never be in tune with and as a matter of fact one of the causes of the unresolvable conflicts in the homes.
This writeup is supposed to be a wake-up call for the parents to do more also on the male child, to help them be the head God has ordained them to be.
The future matters most. As we enrol our male children for school to prepare them academically for future, we must also bear in mind that if they don’t have a good marital life they may not enjoy fully who they are.
1. TEACH HIM HOW TO BE GENTLE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX
The problem today in many homes is that many husbands don’t have an idea of how to be gentle around their wives and children. It can’t totally be their faults. Am sorry to say, parents will also need to have a fair share of the blame.
Nobody drops from heaven. The man we’re seeing today as the husband and father, started from somewhere. He didn’t drop from heaven. So if something goes wrong, it’s the best to go to the root, which is the man’s background.
It is the responsibility of the parents to teach their kids all necessary etiquettes. Attending gently to women without feeling inferior is one thing I know that’s lacking in many men’s lives today and it has cost some men their marriage.
And it all start when parents show favouritism at home. It will only make the male child believe he’s superior to his sisters. Part of the problem is that it can make men start competing with their wives at home. This should be henceforth discourage in order to help our male children in their marriage.
2. TAKE YOUR TIME TO SHOW HIM AROUND TO MEET PEOPLE
The aim of this is to help him so he won’t be shy. This is why many young men today can’t talk to women to express what they want but only accept whatever that comes their ways.
Exposing him to friends and family, maybe for holidays or vacation will increase his knowledge about other people and places. He will develop freedom of relationship and expressions more than locking him down in the compound with his siblings alone. Exposure is a part of education. I hope you know.
Lack of exposure can affect a young man. It can damage his thinking and shape his choice. Some men only realise they make a wrong choice after they’ve started a family with their women. Simply because the women were chosen for them.
3. ENROL HIM FOR EXTRA CURRICULAR ACTIVITIES
It is very good for your boy to be able to try his hands on other things that can give him an edge among his peers.
If your boy can try his hands on other things apart from his books, it will be very good too. If he can play musical instruments, if he can design graphics or websites using computer at his tender age, it will help him develop his relationship outside home and academics.
These days, boys only watch football and play computer games, when a lot can be done with computer than game. While young boys learn to be aggressive playing fighting game on phone and computer, he can learn patience repairing computers and phone.
He learn better relationship teaching people the skills he has acquired and also learning to be patient putting them through It.
4. TEACH HIM HOW TO DO MANY HOUSE CHORES
There are so many house chores that the children can learn or help their parents with. But what we see most of the time is that the female child is the one that’s always exposed to these chores while the male child sits in the sitting room with his Dad to read news papers or watch news.
This can’t continue if we want a better relationship future for our male child as we want for our female child. If your boy can cool, do laundries, wash plates, tend garden and attend very well to your guests it’s not a bad idea. It will be a plus for him in his life time.
Parents shouldn’t see it as a taboo for the boys in the home to help their sisters. This is why many husbands today think it’s a taboo to give their wives helping hands at home.
Don’t only wish a happy home for your children, especially the male folk, according to this article, but be ready to put them through the experience, so they can get used to it.
5. START PRAYING ABOUT HIS RELATIONSHIP NOW
Someone said the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago and the second best time is now. How true!
It is simple. We simply meant to say you out to have started praying for your male child concerning his relationship and marital life since when he was born. But, this message isn’t getting to you too late, because you can start now.
It is not enough to teach him this and teach him that, if we didn’t commit his ways unto the Lord, we might be just wasting our time. If the Lord does not build the house, the builders labour in vain.
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