Happy home is what everyone desires. We all know having a happy home is like having a happy background. Having happy parents is having happy up-bringing. Having happy up-bringing is like starting well in life. And that’s why happy home is the root of a happy nation.
Separated parents can’t boast of a happy marriage. It might or might not be their wishes but once it happens the children suffer it most. And what becomes of the children of a separated or broken home? Most of the time, thorns in the flesh of the people in the society, of course.
That simply means, whatever families produce, society will benefit or suffer from it. Societies are made up of people and nations are made up of societies. Therefore, no happy family, no happy nation. No happy nation, no happy people. The cycle goes on.
It is on this premises that we bring to you compilations of salient points from the marriage conference held by the senior couples (those that have spent 25 years and above in marriage) in the second quarter of 2016 on “Having A Happy Home”
Wether you are married or single, if you truly desire happy home here are some vital points to note;
1. No need for plan B of marriage (You don’t device an escape route, envisaged that things might go wrong)
Couples that want to have a happy home give their marriage all it takes. None of the couples have it at the back of their mind to leave or elope, if the marriage doesn’t work. They put their two legs in the water, close their eyes against all distractions and be ready for the consequences of their being faithful.
While it was very obvious that the speakers meant every of their statements, one could see it on their faces that they were happy, very happy.
It was emphasised that being determined to have a successful marriage and no other options work. According to one of the senior couples, “We had determined our marriage would work against all odds, right from when we were in courtship. So even when we have issues against each other at home, we believe it will work for the good of our marriage and we don’t take our fights seriously.”
Conclusively, when you come into marriage, you come wholeheartedly and you come putting all your eggs in the same basket.
2. Marriage is a work in progress
If we say it’s only singles that are yet to be aware that marriage is a serious work, we may not be totally wrong. It takes personal experience to really know how marriage works.
Couples that want to have a happy home don’t hibernate after getting married. They go to work! Challenges will always arise in marriage. It’s only the couples that have been up and doing that will always have a ready made answers.
One of the programme anchors said, “Even now that my two children are married am still working on my marriage. Deciding on when to visit or how long to stay with my married children, whenever the need arises, without making my husband feel lonely, is what I have to still work on till date.”
Another couple, while buttressing the fact that marriage is a continuous work, said you must continue to work on your marriage and ensure you don’t give room for negativity to creep in.
No marriage will last or fully be a happy platform for the children or else the parents have determined not to relent on each other and the home in general.
3. The man must be able to lay down his life for the family
While they all submitted that couples commitments to their homes are second to none, if happy home is their dream. The senior couples, at the conference, unanimously agreed that the husband, which is the head of the family must be ready to live a sacrificial life.
The father of the house is the one that initiate. He must be about good example, showing full commitment and that he is ready to lay down his life for things to work out well.
“When we say laying ones life down,” a man asked. “what does it really mean?”
“It simply means living a sacrificial life as the head. A man must be ready to forgo his own needs and attend to the family first even if he is left with the last token in his account.”
4. They follow the principles of the word of God
There is no way the principles of God on marriage wouldn’t come to play in a marriage conference with the gathering of successful couples that are proud to say their homes are happy homes.
Speaking from the book of Ephesians 5, 22-25. “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” This prescription was emphatically hammered as a help in time of need in marriage by the women.
While verse “25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,” was also stressed for men, at the conference, as their guide whenever there comes the tendency to want to stray away in the marriage.
5. They are contented
Contentment was another hint dropped by the senior couples at the conference, as being one of the secrets of having a happy home. They agree that there would be a time when other women would seem better in a man’s eyes. But being contented and remembering what you sign for is for better or worse, you would sit back again.
They again, spoke about temptation for the wives in marriage. They concluded that being contented, too would help women, if things aren’t so rosy at home and other women keep speaking of how they are are having swell time in their own marriage.
Laying emphasis on these 5 key factors, the conference was closed on the note that marriage is always a sweet experience that everybody should aspire to have for joint effort in creating a good nation worth living.
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